Angela Scanlon - 'life is a balance and it's messy'

Virgin Radio

21 May 2022, 18:58

The presenter and journalist has a new book!

Angela Scanlon, host of the Thanks A Million podcast, has appeared on The Graham Norton Show With Waitrose to talk about her new book, Joyrider.

Part memoir, part self-help, the book sees Angela chart her own journey into the world of self-development – dipping into the anxiety of her her teens and 20s, the bulimia she lived with for 15 years, and recounting how a low chapter of her life pushed her to finally take steps to help herself, including seeking therapy after the birth of her first daughter, Ruby, in 2018.

"I've been something of a human guinea pig," says Irish born Angela, "and I've tried a lot of a lot of different things in an attempt to 'fix myself'. Gratitude was one of those things that I I kind of kept coming back to, because I started my podcast around it. I've always been really good at sticking to work things, but really bad at doing anything on a personal level. I thought, 'okay, if I can dress this up at work, it might force me to practice this thing that I kind of pick up and put down'. But truth is, gratitude is really effective in shifting my mood and my perspective and my life."

Angela went on to say that becoming a mother also helped give her perspective and gratitude for what her life has given her. "100%" she said. "Motherhood was absolutely terrifying for me!"

"It was a terrifying experience for me on so many levels," she said. "My whole sense of identity changed, because mine was so wrapped up in in work. When I had my daughter, I was like, 'Oh no, this isn't right. This is supposed to be - or at least Instagram tells us that this is supposed to be - one of the most joyful experiences of my life', and I kind of didn't really feel anything you know. But I realised that I had kept negative emotions hidden for years. Only then did I realise that I had sacrificed the good stuff in trying to avoid the bad stuff. I realised that I didn't want to pass that on to my daughter. That was definitely the catalyst for me to sort myself out."

Angela told Graham about the importance of what she describes as 'nuggets of joy'.

"I was always looking for these big things that would sort me out," she says. "And then I realised that - as people are so fond of saying - it's the little things that are important in life. They really are. Little cumulative things. So I started writing down the little things that gave me me joy, so that I could come back to them when I felt in a slightly more disconnected place or felt a bit dark or bit alone. It was a reminder that I could get back there at some point in time."

Joyrider: How Gratitude Can Help You Get The Life You Really Want is available to buy now.

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